The Pact

Ahh anyone else have a case of the Januaries? So far, Lawyer Chic and I have booked a Vegas trip for April and I have ordered Turbo Fire and finished 4 books on my Kindle. I think I need to stay away from my lap top and put my debit card away. Unfortunately, I have memorized my card numbers anyway, a side effect of all my online shopping over the years. Must figure out a way to remedy that.

Anyway, January seems to bring the past out of the woodwork. It's ironic because it's traditionally a month of new starts and here comes the past, banging down my door (read: cell phone/facebook/email). Here I am, planning a vacation, starting fresh, starting turbo (ohhh...i can buy new work out clothes), being financially responsible, enjoying the opportunities a new year presents and.....I can't seem to escape no matter what I do or don't do. Why is that? Is it because turning to something familiar is easier than approaching something new? I know there is comfort in the familiar. You're used to certain rhythms and patterns, you can anticipate the next steps. But that doesn't make it right. There are reasons the past is, well, in the past. Lawyer Chic has had a rough go of this as well. So, not only did we decide Vegas is the perfect vacation spot, we came up with The Pact. Only new opportunities dates starting in February. Anyone we had a past serious relationship with is out. And, we'll be blogging. Well, I'll be blogging about our year of new opportunities. She'll just be dating. Works out perfectly ha.  So stay tuned and find out how we navigate the disastrous challenging and sometimes shallow waters of the dating pond.

First Decision in 2013 is......

Vegas in April!  See? Already making progresses on my changes for 2013!

No resolutions for 2013-just changes!

I was a worrier. Hardcore. Not about everything but in reality probably about far too many things-work, boys, bosses, family issues, friends, money, the future, the present-you get the picture. I think a reasonable amount of worrying is normal and many people are concerned about the same things but I was a little too preoccupied with my worrying. I could have been the gold medal champ. Not a lot of people knew that about me but I tried to fight it.  Then things changed last summer and I worried about different things but at the same time I worried about less. It was freeing. I had a different perspective and instead of it being just a talking point I was actually able to practice my new perspective. It felt and still feels liberating. I look at the new year as another opportunity for change. While I'm thrilled 2012 is in the rear view mirror and I'm blowing a kiss goodbye to the past, I'm taking with me the lessons I've learned and working on some changes for 2013. Not resolutions because I think we set ourselves up to fail when we resolve to do something and take a step back and then beat ourselves up and then try again and this vicious cycle starts again and we forget what's really important.

Here's my top ten changes for 2013. What are yours?

10. Worry about what's important, let go of what isn't. if the flavor of the month isn't texting you or treating you how you deserve, they should worry you're going to walk away. Not the other way around.
9. Pursue my passion. I've written for years but haven't published in awhile. Time to change that.
8. Stay off the grid. I'm going to unplug everyday for awhile. Better to connect in person than virtually.
7. Take 10 seconds and think before I speak. Sometimes I don't have a filter. Oops.
6. Finish my 26 Acts of Kindness. I'm on my 5th.
5. Take a vacation and not worry about budget, location or packing.
4. Spend less. Give more. Take inventory before I decide to buy something just because.
3. Start nursing school. And not be scared.
2. Get out of the comfort zone-in everything.
1. Pay it forward.